mental-health
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United in loss
My Dom, Funiculosus, is my best friend. He has his own partner to whom he is…
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Maddening mental music and the silence of kink
During the day my head is playing music at me. I don’t mean that I “hear”…
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The body remembers
I wonder? I’ve been feeling very anxious this last week and I’ve had a migraine. My…
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Sorry, but no thanks
After realising that I was simply horny yesterday, I had the good fortune to be approached…
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An ending
Today was an ending. A proper ending. I have taken a break from counselling with Richard…
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Rope after London
Since we didn’t go to the street food market near Waterloo station during our visit to…
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Companionable Silence
My friend, Patricius, can talk for England Ireland. But when he’s silent, its not uncomfortable. Companionable…
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Learning My Size in Someone Else’s Love Story
I have felt worried that Funiculosus’ partner might feel jealous or threatened by me. I don’t…
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Being Safe to Be Around
So much of my thinking and exploration has been about what kind of people I want…
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Polysecure 2: What Does It Feel Like to Be Safe With Someone?
Part 2 of 4 in a short series reflecting on Polysecure by Jessica Fern At one…
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Polysecure 1: Attachment vs Neurodivergence – Am I Misreading Myself?
Part 1 of 4 in a short series reflecting on Polysecure by Jessica Fern Attachment, trauma…
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The love that doesn’t soothe
Today’s counselling felt like a bit of a brain dump. It can be like that sometimes:…
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How Much Love Is Allowed?
It wasn’t just a frantic Friday – what with meetings at work, my husband had asked…
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Subspace and Churros
I have been feeling drained and emotionally out of sorts for a while, and there’s only…
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Three Chocolate Biscuits Later
I’d been feeling quite drained, possibly due to the antibiotics causing poor sleep and headaches, possibly…