mental-health
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Soul Wars – Episode 4: The Men Who Drain Me
The Hot–Cold Problem Some people “blow hot and cold” as mum would have said. They can…
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First Counselling of 2026: Ambush vs Agreement
I didn’t think we’d be looking at the timeline today – there was quite a bit…
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Asking the Internet If I Was Allowed to Exist
A few days ago I had a ping from Reddit on a post that I’d made…
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Slow Trains to Madrid
I have started planning my summer holiday to Spain. This is the the second holiday that…
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Soul Wars – Episode 3: The Men Who Restore Me
… continuing from Soul Code – Episode 2: Growing Around the Absence. The Unexpected Metric I used…
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Two Candles
On the anniversary of my mum’s death, I go to Winchester cathedral to light a candle.…
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Soul Code – Episode 2: Growing Around the Absence
Following on from Soul Code – Episode 1: The Silent Menace Opening Scene – The Familiar Isn’t…
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When the Body Remembers Before I Do
I’ve had a cold these last few days. Nothing dramatic – just enough to flatten me…
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Counselling: Notes from the Table
Counselling! I laid out the chart of my marriage on the table to ready for Richard,…
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Respectful humiliation
This post follows directly from Consent Is the Foreplay, and continues my reflections on consent, trust, and…
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Before I Knew How to Leave
This post discusses sexual encounters, emotional coercion, bereavement, religious guilt, and experiences of obligation around sex.…
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A day that taught me about compassion, consent, and leaving early
So. Here’s the thing. I’d been messaging a guy that I met on Recon (a gay…
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A circle of soundbites – further reflections
After writing yesterday’s piece, something clicked for me: I realised that I’ve spent a lifetime feeling…
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A circle of soundbites
It was the works Christmas do this evening. The venue was much better than last year:…
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Soul Code – Episode 1: The Silent Menace
I Didn’t Learn Love the Way Other People Did I knew from an early age that…
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