self-discovery
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Soul Code – Episode 2: Growing Around the Absence
Following on from Soul Code – Episode 1: The Silent Menace Opening Scene – The Familiar Isn’t…
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When the Body Remembers Before I Do
I’ve had a cold these last few days. Nothing dramatic – just enough to flatten me…
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Counselling: Notes from the Table
Counselling! I laid out the chart of my marriage on the table to ready for Richard,…
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Respectful humiliation
This post follows directly from Consent Is the Foreplay, and continues my reflections on consent, trust, and…
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Clarity Is Kinder Than Confusion
Content warning:This post discusses sexual encounters, bereavement, boundary-setting, and emotional discomfort. There are references to grief…
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Before I Knew How to Leave
This post discusses sexual encounters, emotional coercion, bereavement, religious guilt, and experiences of obligation around sex.…
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A day that taught me about compassion, consent, and leaving early
So. Here’s the thing. I’d been messaging a guy that I met on Recon (a gay…
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A circle of soundbites – further reflections
After writing yesterday’s piece, something clicked for me: I realised that I’ve spent a lifetime feeling…
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A circle of soundbites
It was the works Christmas do this evening. The venue was much better than last year:…
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Soul Code – Episode 1: The Silent Menace
I Didn’t Learn Love the Way Other People Did I knew from an early age that…
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Counselling after sexual liberation
As usual, I started with the roundup of the past two weeks. I felt his delight…
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Held: A Shibari Encounter
I met Funiculosus on the Recon kink hook-up app. He’s very much into rope bondage –…
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My Father’s Script, and Mine
My dad phoned just as I was leaving the house to take the dog on her…
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Debugging the Body: A Visit to the GP
About a week ago I sent an e-consultation to the surgery to ask whether the timings…
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London Leather: Epilogue and Afterglow
After the Leather Social, Cicero and I were both very tired and went straight to bed.…