mental-health
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Respectful humiliation
This post follows directly from Consent Is the Foreplay, and continues my reflections on consent, trust, and…
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Before I Knew How to Leave
This post discusses sexual encounters, emotional coercion, bereavement, religious guilt, and experiences of obligation around sex.…
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A day that taught me about compassion, consent, and leaving early
So. Here’s the thing. I’d been messaging a guy that I met on Recon (a gay…
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A circle of soundbites – further reflections
After writing yesterday’s piece, something clicked for me: I realised that I’ve spent a lifetime feeling…
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A circle of soundbites
It was the works Christmas do this evening. The venue was much better than last year:…
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Soul Code – Episode 1: The Silent Menace
I Didn’t Learn Love the Way Other People Did I knew from an early age that…
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Counselling after sexual liberation
As usual, I started with the roundup of the past two weeks. I felt his delight…
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Held: A Shibari Encounter
I met Funiculosus on the Recon kink hook-up app. He’s very much into rope bondage –…
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Starting to map the marriage
The first thing I did when Richard (my counsellor) arrived was apologise for breaching his privacy…
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Swiping across boundaries
In a bored moment, I was on one of the gay dating apps idly swiping through…
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A quiet rite by the sea
It’s been years since my husband last joined me on one of ritual trips to Clevedon.…
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Ball Pools and Broken Hearts
At the weekly cinema trip with Ambrosius, I was feeling tired and a little out of…
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The Tears Are Not Ready
Things are getting deeper in counselling. Tonight we started talking about history, because I said that…
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Running Toward Myself
I have been for a run! The first since my heart attach ten weeks ago! I…
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The Spa of No Expectations
Ambrosius and I caught the coach to Bournemouth; fifty minutes, partly motorway, partly through the forest.…
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