relationships
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Pronouns in the Wild
Pronouns are funny things. I remember as a kid my mum telling me off for saying…
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Don’t Call Him My Boyfriend
I had a message from a friend today – “enjoying your date?” “Huh?” “With your boyfriend”…
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Companionable Silence
My friend, Patricius, can talk for England Ireland. But when he’s silent, its not uncomfortable. Companionable…
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Learning My Size in Someone Else’s Love Story
I have felt worried that Funiculosus’ partner might feel jealous or threatened by me. I don’t…
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Being Safe to Be Around
So much of my thinking and exploration has been about what kind of people I want…
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The Puppy in the Kitchen
There’s more to being a Rope Puppy or a Puppy Daddy than just rope and cuddles!…
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Polysecure 4: Pulling It Together
Final part of a 4 part in a short series reflecting on Polysecure by Jessica Fern…
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Polysecure 3: Was My Marriage Codependent, or Just Closed?
Part 3 of 4 in a short series reflecting on Polysecure by Jessica Fern One section…
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Polysecure 2: What Does It Feel Like to Be Safe With Someone?
Part 2 of 4 in a short series reflecting on Polysecure by Jessica Fern At one…
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Polysecure 1: Attachment vs Neurodivergence – Am I Misreading Myself?
Part 1 of 4 in a short series reflecting on Polysecure by Jessica Fern Attachment, trauma…
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You Didn’t Have to Read It
It’s been a long weekend in every sense. My (ex) husband left hospital on Friday after…
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How Much Love Is Allowed?
It wasn’t just a frantic Friday – what with meetings at work, my husband had asked…
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Musings in the small hours
It’s 03:47. I have been awake for hours. My head keeps going over the evening. I…
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The Relief of Not Deciding
It was a very early start for a Saturday. I had to get to Southampton Central…
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The Space Between Friends
Friday night is movie night! And this Friday Ambrosius suggested “Sinners”… and that we invite Patricius.…
