self-discovery
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Clarity Is Kinder Than Confusion
Content warning:This post discusses sexual encounters, bereavement, boundary-setting, and emotional discomfort. There are references to grief…
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Before I Knew How to Leave
This post discusses sexual encounters, emotional coercion, bereavement, religious guilt, and experiences of obligation around sex.…
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A day that taught me about compassion, consent, and leaving early
So. Here’s the thing. I’d been messaging a guy that I met on Recon (a gay…
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A circle of soundbites – further reflections
After writing yesterday’s piece, something clicked for me: I realised that I’ve spent a lifetime feeling…
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Counselling after sexual liberation
As usual, I started with the roundup of the past two weeks. I felt his delight…
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Held: A Shibari Encounter
I met Funiculosus on the Recon kink hook-up app. He’s very much into rope bondage –…
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My Father’s Script, and Mine
My dad phoned just as I was leaving the house to take the dog on her…
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London Leather: Epilogue and Afterglow
After the Leather Social, Cicero and I were both very tired and went straight to bed.…
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London Leather 3: Kink, Calm, and Keeping My Dad From Panic
Continuing my adventures at the London Leather Weekend… Content note: This post includes kink, BDSM dynamics,…
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London Leather 2: Bears, Brothers, and the Texture of Desire
Following on from London Leather 1… Content note: This post includes kink, BDSM dynamics, and sexual…
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Swiping across boundaries
In a bored moment, I was on one of the gay dating apps idly swiping through…
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“A Previous Life”: Reading Edmund White in the Midst of My Own Ending
This is a posthumous novel; I don’t know how much are Edmund’s own words and what…
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The Tears Are Not Ready
Things are getting deeper in counselling. Tonight we started talking about history, because I said that…
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Waking Next to Absence
I had a friend over last night. Originally, he was going to come over and we’d…
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The lure of gendering
While I was reading Ben Pechey’s “Book of Non-Binary Joy”, I found that I was trying…
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