⚠️ Content warning: BDSM, bondage, sexual activity and sex toys.

I am very much the sub. And Funiculosus is very much the Dom. So when he asked if I would mind tying him up, I was quite surprised – but also quite honoured: I was the first ever to do so.

I was a bit nervous, and I think he was too – he didn’t know what to expect.

I didn’t think to set the mood like he does with me until much later in the roping. He touches and strokes me, allows me to smell his scent and feel the reassuring warmth of his body. I kinda got straight into it.

I could remember from the only session that my ex and I had of a shibari chest harness that we put into each other how to safely tie his wrists so that he didn’t lose circulation. And I did check in with Funiculosus that things felt comfortable. If he’d asked me to stop at any time, I would have done. Instead he gave me guidance on what to do.

I managed to muddle a half decent looking chest harness that kept him secure.

This was fun!

He’s smaller than me and lighter, so I picked him up and popped him into the bed.

Then I tied his ankles together. Not as well as he ties me, but this was my first time with rope!

He seemed to be enjoying the experience and was smiling broadly, although he wasn’t in anything like the kind of deep trance that I can go into it.

It seems there are many different reactions to being restrained. Some drop into a very deep state, like I do. A few freak out and find the reality is actually very scary for them – Funiculosus had had a few of those in his time. Some have fantasied about being restrained for years, yet actually find the reality bores them! He’s had them too!

Funiculosus enjoyed it, without dropping. He certainly didn’t freak out, and neither was he bored.

“Now for some fun!” I thought.

I reached into my bedside drawer and pulled out a small “personal massager” (that’s what they put on the boxes anyway).

“This is a beginners toy,” I said, and proceeded to gently stroke his body from top to bottom with it.

This was clearly pleasing him!

I allowed the toy to touch his more intimate areas.

Yep, he’s happy!

I don’t know how long I kept this up, mixing the toy’s vibrations with my own kisses and cuddles, but, and still without seeming bored, he asked me to untie him.

He wanted to tie me up!

I slipped the vibrator into his underwear and undid his feet. Then afterwards I helped him stand.

He seemed to be enjoying it so much that he was almost cross-eyed.

However, this was his first time and to overdo it could turn a positive experience into a negative one.

Afterwards he tied me twice. A stiff chest harness and a hog tie.

Then we lay and cuddled and he talked to me about the experience and how it felt for him.

He’d wanted to know how it felt to be tied up and powerless – and to submit to another.

And he trusted me.

This was an honour.

He did enjoy it, and whilst he said that he’d not dropped in the same way that he’d seen others and I do it, he did feel something that he thought was similar when his legs were tied – that was when he really appreciated how powerless he actually was. And it didn’t seem to be a bad feeling.

I don’t know if we’ll do it again. I think I’d do anything for him, so if it’s something he’d like, I would do it …

…

… as long as he ties me more!