Dec 2025
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How My Nan Kept the Peace
Every three weeks, those of my team who live close enough to Southampton to make the…
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Before I Knew How to Leave
This post discusses sexual encounters, emotional coercion, bereavement, religious guilt, and experiences of obligation around sex.…
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A day that taught me about compassion, consent, and leaving early
So. Here’s the thing. I’d been messaging a guy that I met on Recon (a gay…
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A circle of soundbites – further reflections
After writing yesterday’s piece, something clicked for me: I realised that I’ve spent a lifetime feeling…
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A circle of soundbites
It was the works Christmas do this evening. The venue was much better than last year:…
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Soul Code – Episode 1: The Silent Menace
I Didn’t Learn Love the Way Other People Did I knew from an early age that…
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A Kiss Before the Army: Alexander, Bagoas, and the Edges of Identity
Despite studying Ancient History at Uni, I first encountered the name Bagoas when reading 50 LGBTQ+…
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Counselling after sexual liberation
As usual, I started with the roundup of the past two weeks. I felt his delight…
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Magic, Grief, and a Real Fir Tree
So starts my first Christmas on my own ever… I’m home alone (ok, with the dog)…
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Little hands, quick years
Today I just want to pause in the simple joy of sitting on the floor and…
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Hypochondria, premonition – or just another day?
The trouble with having had a heart attack is an increase in, which I hope is,…
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Crossed wires and the film we didn’t see together
Friday nights at the cinema have become one of those small, anchoring rituals that I have…
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His Birthday, Our Old Conversation
The husband and I (we’re still married – at least for now) never talked about what…
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Held: A Shibari Encounter
I met Funiculosus on the Recon kink hook-up app. He’s very much into rope bondage –…
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My Father’s Script, and Mine
My dad phoned just as I was leaving the house to take the dog on her…
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