Dec 2025
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Counselling: Notes from the Table
Counselling! I laid out the chart of my marriage on the table to ready for Richard,…
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A calm coffee with my Ex
Having cancelled my play with Funiculosus and my family visit for tomorrow, I decided to take…
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Responsibility, Snot, and Disappointment
I have been so excited about seeing Funiculosus this weekend. We’d been messaging each other, both…
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Respectful humiliation
This post follows directly from Consent Is the Foreplay, and continues my reflections on consent, trust, and…
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Consent Is the Foreplay
Severus and I met on a gay hookup app in August. We were actually scheduled to…
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Clarity Is Kinder Than Confusion
Content warning:This post discusses sexual encounters, bereavement, boundary-setting, and emotional discomfort. There are references to grief…
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How My Nan Kept the Peace
Every three weeks, those of my team who live close enough to Southampton to make the…
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Before I Knew How to Leave
This post discusses sexual encounters, emotional coercion, bereavement, religious guilt, and experiences of obligation around sex.…
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A day that taught me about compassion, consent, and leaving early
So. Here’s the thing. I’d been messaging a guy that I met on Recon (a gay…
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A circle of soundbites – further reflections
After writing yesterday’s piece, something clicked for me: I realised that I’ve spent a lifetime feeling…
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A circle of soundbites
It was the works Christmas do this evening. The venue was much better than last year:…
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Soul Code – Episode 1: The Silent Menace
I Didn’t Learn Love the Way Other People Did I knew from an early age that…
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A Kiss Before the Army: Alexander, Bagoas, and the Edges of Identity
Despite studying Ancient History at Uni, I first encountered the name Bagoas when reading 50 LGBTQ+…
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Counselling after sexual liberation
As usual, I started with the roundup of the past two weeks. I felt his delight…
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Magic, Grief, and a Real Fir Tree
So starts my first Christmas on my own ever… I’m home alone (ok, with the dog)…
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