The concept of “stolen valour” is often associated with individuals falsely claiming military honours to garner admiration or benefits they haven’t earned.

A similar phenomenon is quietly unfolding in the eunuch community, where some individuals claim to be eunuchs but do so for reasons far removed from the realities of our lives.

These false claims can romanticise an experience that is anything but whimsical and, more worryingly, mislead others about the profound changes and challenges that come with transitioning into this unique existence.

For some, pretending to be a eunuch is tied to fetishistic pursuits, viewing the identity as a means to explore certain fantasies. While everyone is entitled to their interests, conflating fantasy with the lived experiences of eunuchs risks trivialising our realities.

Being a eunuch is not a costume to be donned for a thrill; it’s a permanent, deeply personal transformation that shapes not just the body, but the psyche, relationships, and sense of self.

The harm extends beyond personal offence—it can ripple into the broader community. Romanticised depictions might inspire vulnerable individuals to pursue a path that is not truly aligned with their needs or identity. Eunuchhood is not a fix-all solution for discomfort or dysphoria; for those unprepared for its permanence, the results can be emotionally and psychically devastating.

It’s crucial for those considering this path to approach it with clear eyes and informed understanding. The eunuch community is rich in diversity and experience, and its members often grapple with complex emotions, health implications, and social challenges. Those falsely claiming this identity muddy the waters, creating unrealistic portrayals that can mislead prospective eunuchs into believing the journey is simpler or more glamorous than it is.

Authenticity matters – not just for those of us who live as eunuchs but for anyone contemplating a major life transition. The path to becoming a eunuch is as much about careful reflection as it is about commitment to living authentically. It is vital for anyone considering this step to seek out genuine stories, ask hard questions, and consult professionals who can offer guidance grounded in reality, not fantasy.

The eunuch community deserves respect, both from those within and those outside it. That respect begins with honesty and integrity – qualities essential for protecting the dignity of this identity and ensuring it is not co-opted or misrepresented.