Therapeutic support for eunuchs

A second good night

Last night I had another undusturbed night: no hot flushes! I think I only had a mild one yesterday. Maybe I am through them – it’s probably too early to really say.

I did my usual anti-ED exercises last night. It’s hard getting hard – I’m just not feeling the mood for it. It mightn’t help that I’m doing it just before I go to sleep, so perhaps I should find a quiet moment during the day to have boner-practice!

Showering has become a really lovely experience; with the stitches almost entirely gone, washing the scrotal void has become a delight! The smoothness of the entire region is so lovely to feel.

I was surprised that there was still some spotting on the tissue when I did the anti-bac clean this morning; is thought that the blood spots were where the stitches were coming out.

Next weekend, I am looking forward to going for a run! I don’t expect it will be far, but it will feel wonderful to start running again.

Support for guys like us

A kind somebody at the Eunuch Archive, who reached out to me when I was banned, told me of another problem at the EA. He and some others were engaged in a conversation with a guy who was feeling suicidal. Another admin deleted the conversation and ejected the vulnerable man. We do not know why. My contact is now himself feeling terrible because he doesn’t know what had become of the guy he was talking to.

That led me onto a train a thought about supporting vulnerable members of our community.

My husband’s profession is a counsellor, and he used work for a university – actually, he is a damned good counsellor and clients would ask for him repeatedly. He still has all the skills and is fully qualified. I asked him how he would feel about providing online support for people like me. He has done email counselling (as a therapist) previously. I asked about whether he would consider giving therapy over a messaging app (eg WhatsApp or Telegram), he wasn’t completely against it. He more favoured video counselling, as he comes from a Gestalt background and believes that the best therapy is done when the whole body and it’s silent language is taken into account.

He also had a problem with the anonymity that I felt would be essential to support people like me: when I first started this journey I felt so much shame and embarrassment that I could not have spoken to a human face to face. Most people I talk to online I never find out where they are or what their real name is. Sometimes, they might give me a fake name, and then as we develop trust they will tell me their real name.

He was also concerned about a therapist’s duty of care to clients, which would be complicated by anonymity. Normally, a therapist would obtain emergency contact information and possibly GP contact details. If the counsellor feels that the client is a risk to themselves or others, they may be compelled to contact the emergency services. I think that providing therapy of a kind that we need could preclude providing emergency contact information.

An online therapist would also need to ensure they arranged for supervision for themselves. This is for their own safety and wellbeing, to help protect their own mental health and stop over attaching to clients.

My husband has had a long period of illness and his confidence in any ability to provide support to others is much compromised, but I believe that he could provide a compassionate and sympathetic ear, and help guys like me sort out their feelings and help them to come to a safe and sane transition, if that’s what is needed.

Systems check

If you’re wondering, even seven weeks without testosterone, and when without feeling horny, I can still get it up and create eunuch-goo. An interesting aspect of the scrotectomy stitch, is that it creates a feeling of restriction, a little bit like a cock cage, which in turn creates a feedback loop that increases stimulation. I imagine that, with time, the scar will soften and that sense of constriction will diminish; I don’t know what effect that will have on my erections. Having shaved the pereneum and scrotal void yesterday, it felt amazing when I applied lube and stroked the entire length.