Originally published 7th November 2023

I am still at a very early stage of my journey, whatever and wherever that is going to take me, but I have been finding friends in strange me places.

I’ve found two real stalwarts on Reddit who question and gently challenge me; encouraging me to be cautious, bit also not judging how I feel and what I think I need. One is straight and one is gay. One of them has been through the process, the other is at least curious.

I’ve found friends on Discord, a couple of whom are pro-op transsexuals. Their journey is similar but different. At least people can relate to the “born in the wrong body” thing because at least the body they should have been in is a recognised gender.

I’ve also found friends in fetlife, who have helped me really identify the kind of life I think I would get after surgery.

What I am learning is that losing (or giving up) one’s balls isn’t the end of the world and that sometimes subtraction is the only way to make something – or somebody – complete.

I am grateful for the friends I have found and hope to pay their love and support forward one day.